Way, waaaaaay back in 2010, I created a Venn diagram (well, if you can still call something a Venn diagram when it has dozens of bits that intersect in some pretty mind-bending ways) of the variations of non-monogamy I've observed.

The Map of Non-Monogamy ended up all over the Internet. I've seen it in Fetlife, presented at academic lectures, and ( Read more... )

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Last weekend was edwardmartiniii's birthday. Entirely on his own, with no input from me, he chose a theme for the party: a Mad Science Fair. Kind of like the science fairs that grade schools and high ( Read more... )

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So, I occasionally write porn. Sometimes, when I write porn, I post the stories on Literotica ( Read more... )

[Edit]: Can't get enough non-monogamy? Check out the book!

The Map of Non-Monogamy I've posted on my journal already keeps generating a ton of email, and I've realized that there is still another category of non-monogamous sexual behavior missing from it ( Read more... )

[Edit] There is yet another update to the map here. You can also find my book on non-monogamy hereBecause my brain is totally broken ( Read more... )

A while back, I did a graphic of the various overlapping types of non-monogamous relationships. I've re-visited that chart, with some revisions and additions, and at zaiah's suggestion I've added some specific tags to various parts of the graph.

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I've been told, many times, that the word "polyamory" is not really necessary, as it's simply a synonym for "open relationship" or "swinging" (or, depending on the person talking to me, "cheating"). This idea seems to assume that there's really only one kind of non-monogamy, which is kind of silly ( Read more... )

In the study of stellar evolution, there is this concept called the main sequence, a well-defined band that you see whenever you survey all the stars in the sky and plot their color on one axis and their brightness on the other. Not all stars fall into the main sequence, but the vast majority do; there's even a lovely image of the graph hereIt ( Read more... )

A while ago, I got to wondering, as I sometimes do, exactly what makes an orgy. For example, if fifteen people are all in a room having sex, but only within existing partnerships, and there's no "extra-partner" sex happening, is it an orgy? If four people are all fucking each other, is that an orgy, or is it just a foursome ( Read more... )